For the past 5 weeks I have been leading a Creative Corrections Bible Study with a group of wonderful women from our homeschool co-op that I am lucky enough to call friends. It has been difficult to juggle this study, construction in around our house, a growing photography business, being a wife & mommy, & blogging. I intended to share my notes on my blog throughout the study, but I’m just now getting around to it :)
I have read A LOT of parenting books! I have enjoyed many of them & learned a few things from several, but Lisa Whelchel’s book, Creative Corrections, is my all time favorite. Perhaps it is because she is not only a devout Christian, but also a homeschool mom who can relate to having to correct children all.day.long. She even has her own Tucker! If there is one word that I could use to describe myself right now it would be IMPERFECT. Totally an IMPERFECT mess! So, when I read this in the introduction, I knew God was at work:
“I did not write the Creative Corrections trade book or this subsequent Bible study from a point of view that I’m perfect as much as from a perspective of imperfection. I understand the frustration of saying the same things over & over again, wondering if my kids are ever going to “get it.” I’ve experienced disappointment when I’ve “lost it” in anger, and I’ve enjoyed the astonishment of realizing that amazingly God can and will use me to shape my precious children into His image.”
Her introduction also gives a wonderful glimpse of the study’s goal:
“ . . . we’ll discover that creative alternatives not only serve as effective ways to correct our children but also allow us to teach them in the process….what God is wanting to teach us, as well as what He wants us to teach our children.”
Whether you have good kids, bad kids, or outlaws, I highly recommend adding this book toolbox to your personal library. Grab your favorite highlighter while you’re at it!
During our first meeting we each shared something about ourselves that had nothing to do with our children. Although our group ranges from mothers with very young children to some with a few grown children, & from mother of many (6+) to mothers with just a couple kids, this activity was surprisingly difficult for us. What is something about you that has NOTHING to do with your kids? This is my blog, so if you know me or read it often you know I love to scrapbook, take as many pictures as I can, & blog about all of it & some.
Once we accomplished finding a little of our own identity, we add the kids to the mix. We color coded our kids. Here are my kids “in color”:
Tyler
“Mommy’s boy”
-My first born, most like me, sweet, caring, “Big Brother”, starting to identify more with daddy, funny, very hard worker!
Tucker
- My nature boy, loving, gorgeous, stubborn, loves to draw, mischievous & sneaky, very silly.
TrEvOr
-My sweetest, but meanest, “HOT” tempered, CrAzY, very smart, cute as a bug, sweet little laugh, most like daddy.
truman
“The Baby”
- So sweet & a total snuggler, very demanding, loves to be a brother, just not sure about this boy yet . . .
Taylor
“Daddy’s Girl”
-Care-taker, struggles the most, loving, needy, miss attitude, deceiving, ditzy, helpful, “little mama”.
Tiya
-Strong, distant, athletic, misunderstood, “all about me” attitude, funny, daring
Talon
What would you “color” your children?
Finally, we shared an embarrassing moment our children blessed us with. I shared a Walmart story. I took all the kids (as usual) grocery shopping & we had just reached the final stretch of the trip: The Checkout Line!! As we get behind a middle-aged couple they remark at “how full my hands are.” (GRRR!!) With a big smile on my face, I kindly assure them of how full my heart is as well. I proceed to assure them of how good my kids are only to turn & find Tucker & Trevor in a drop-dead drag-out boxing match. I don’t mean a few swats at each other. I mean, fists are swing, they are flying back into the shelves & knocking things down! It is seriously a UFC match in the middle of the Walmart Checkout line. Ohmygoodness! I was so embarrassed.
Have your kids embarrassed you lately?